Philippians 2:4 says, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” 

Man, it’s hard to do that! Relationships in today’s world tells us to get with somebody, and if they don’t benefit you then to leave them. 

We’re human. We were born into a sinful world and are naturally selfish. Jesus came down to earth and died a gruesome death that we can only imagine. Any second he could have gotten off the cross and rose into heaven. All the pain would have went away for him, but Jesus chose to die so that one day we could be with him in heaven. 

 In the world today we see the perfect instagram couples. Couples that post their pictures together and everyone thinks to themselves, “They’re so happy nothing could be going wrong with their relationship.” Everyone thinks in relationships that it will never be hard and if it does get hard to leave. 

In May of 2024 I proposed to the love of my life, Kelanie. We were planning our wedding and honeymoon and we were so excited for our special day to come and our adventure to begin. Then the month of June came and times got tough for us. We were arguing non stop every single day, and our relationship was without a doubt being tested. I was working 60 to 70 hour weeks and work was getting very stressful. I would think to myself, “Why is she so selfish?” “Why is she being so rude?” 

One day in July I was playing Subway Surfer on her phone when a friend text her. The text read, “Do you still want us to pray for Mav’s job and for him to be less stressed?” 

My heart sank, and it all hit me. While I was being selfish and rude to her for a whole month Kelanie still prayed for me. She prayed that my job would get better and I wouldn’t be stressed anymore and she prayed for our relationship. After I saw that text and saw how unselfish she was our relationship grew and in October we finally got married. 

 Kelanie is a strong Christian and I admire her more and more every single day. I am blessed to call her my best friend and my wife. Proverbs 18:22 says, “ He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” 

Jesus still thinks of us while we still think for ourselves. When we want to only do something for ourselves that should be the time we should think of others the most. I want to be more like Kelanie and think of others and not myself. We should all be like Jesus and show selfless love as he did for us!