
My family members are convinced that I loved my dog Ellie more than I loved them. My sweet girl passed away almost two years ago, but she was definitely one of the greatest loves of my life. Just a mut from the pound, she loved us deeply and seemed to know in her little doggy heart that she was rescued, cherished, and safe with us. I spoke words of affirmation to that dog daily, often wondering if my words could somehow make her live a longer life here on this earth. (I know I sound crazy! Ha!) I told my sweet furry baby that she was “the most beautiful dog in the history of all the dogs that ever were or ever would be,” and I praised her for being “the most precious, kind, and smart dog that ever lived!” Okay. I guess I can see how my husband and children could possibly think that the dog was more highly favored than them!
But, I also live for speaking love and affirmation over people! When I see my daughter, I can’t help but say, “you’re so beautiful” or “you have such wisdom beyond your years.” I’m compelled to constantly tell my son, “I’m so proud of who you are as a person” or “you’re just so handsome!” I often send encouraging words to my husband via texts like, “thank you for taking such good care of our family” or “you’re such a good man.” I even throw out compliments to complete strangers, such as “I love your hair” or “that outfit is absolutely fab!” More so in people than in my sweet Ellie girl, I see how words speak life into hearts and cause heads to be held higher or hints of smiles to flash across faces, even for a second, and that brings me joy.
So why is it so hard to speak life to myself? My internal narrative is, more often than not, filled with words like, “you are not enough,” “you will probably fail,” or even as harsh as “you are wretched and ugly.” Yep. I am sometimes that mean to myself. Now, I’m being pretty vulnerable here and letting you into my thoughts that noone else can hear, but I have an inkling of a feeling that I’m not alone in the arena of self-detriment. And, even if you are not quite as vile with your self-directed words as I am, you may still need to hear the following. Satan hates you. Satan hates me. Satan hates us so much because he knows the truth that God loves us so much. God’s Word points out in John, Chapter 8 that Satan “is the father of lies” and in 2nd Corinthians, Chapter 11 that Satan would “cause our thoughts [to be] led astray….” Satan wants us to believe the lies he tells us in our own head. How incredibly rude of him.
So how do we fight against the lies we tell ourselves? God tells us in Proverbs 18:21 that “the tongue has the power of life and death….” This is not only about the words we say out loud, but also appliciable to the words we speak to ourselves every day, even if it’s in our own head! There is a relatively new song out on the radio called “The Truth” by Megan Woods that honestly describes this reality better than I ever could, so please consider the lyrics here:
“How many times can you hear the same lie
Before you start to believe it?
The enemy keeps whisperin’ to me
I swear these days, it’s all that I’m hearin’
I used to know who I was
Now I look in the mirror and I’m not so sure
Lord, I don’t wanna listen to the lies anymore
The truth is I am my Father’s child
I make Him proud and I make Him smile
I was made in the image of a perfect King
He looks at me and wouldn’t change a thing
The truth is I am truly loved
By a God who’s good when I’m not good enough
I don’t belong to the lies, I belong to You
And that’s the truth”
Oh, how I pray that we can lean into the Father of truth that made us “in the image of a perfect King” and loves us so much that He “wouldn’t change a thing.” Let’s spend more time in His Word (the Bible) and hide His truths in our hearts. Only then will we be armed against the enemy’s lies and rest in the love, peace, and TRUTH of the life God breathes into our lives. Internalize this truth that even my sweet Ellie understood–we are rescued, cherished, and safe with Him.









