It’s not about me

I have sat many times pondering the dreaded “what.” What if I do this, but it ends up like that? What should I do next? What if this happens? What is the next thing?” And of course, “what should I say?” It can be an agonizing process that can lead to feeling stuck, irritated, frustrated, dismayed, hardened, weak and/or bitter. The “what” questions are ones to ponder, as I focus on God’s purpose in my life. But what is more agonizing is when I pause to measure my “what” against my “why.”

Why do I want or hope for this? Why do I want to respond or say that? Why do I want to go? Is it for my glory and/or to meet a desire that “I” want?

You see, the “what” can often look noble, honoring, even impressive to myself or others. However, it all comes back to Jesus and the Glory of God’s kingdom. So, if my why does not line up with God’s Word, my what can have me moving in the wrong direction.

The truth is that Jesus cares more about the why than He does the what. The why can change your what to a how, instead. How can I reflect the gospel of Christ in all my ways? How am I being obedient, according to His word in the “right now?” How can I show love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control in my workplace, home, community and church body? Those are questions to put my why and motivation in check. They become priority over the struggle of what to do.

At the end of the day, at the end of my life, it is about leading others to Him and representing the Gospel so that all may come to know him. As that becomes our focus, our purpose becomes clear.

Invite Others

We need to break free from the pride of doing life all on our own. The communal God has created communal creatures. Let’s step out of our comfort zones and live the way we were designed. 

“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” Hebrews 10:24-25. 

Our lives on earth are too short to hold back from vulnerability that can produce sincere connections. Say what you’re afraid to say out loud. This takes humility, boldness, and making time for others. If you are excited, tell someone. If you are struggling, tell someone. Living in community is a sweet blessing from our Lord. Invite others into your life and seek out relationships; you won’t regret it!

And Grace.

Y’all, I don’t know what’s going to happen today. To you or to me. But I do want to say something – don’t let today get your goat.

The day may have some bad moments – but our God is a good, good God. That’s the truth, and I’m preaching that truth to myself.

It’s hard. Trust me – I know. Those bad moments sometimes make me feel like the target in a game of whack-a-mole.

But God.

And grace.

When things get tough, hang on to that.

8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9

Validate

Validation.

Validate.

Invalidate.

I’m not trying to be crass – I’m just being real – sister, if you need anything validated jump into the word. It’s all right there. God will love on you from there. He will speak to you from there. He will counsel and father you and point you in the right direction.

You don’t need this world to validate you.

You don’t need another human to validate you.

You need God.

That’s it and that’s honest.

God gave us emotions. There’s nothing wrong with them. But sometimes those emotions skew the truth that is within God’s word.

If you’re seeking the truth today – seek God. His word is truly all the validation that you’ll ever need.

“For wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her. “I, wisdom, dwell with prudence, and I find knowledge and discretion.” Proverbs 8:11-12

Identity

Before I learned that my true identity was in Jesus Christ, I looked to other people to fill a hurtful void inside of me that only God could fill.

I turned to people, places, and things for help and for answers that I could only get from God. But at that time in my life, that’s all I knew to do.

In 2014, God did a work in me and what He told me would change my perspective forever. He told me that in order to get to know Him better and better every single day, I would have to choose to know Him better. That I would have to die to self, so that I could live for Him and in Him through it all day by day, He would reveal to me that my identity had nothing to do with anyone or anything in this world and had everything to do with Him. ❤

He told me that I was looking for love in all the wrong places. Building this relationship with Him day by day, He began to show me my identity, my DNA, and that my most important relationship is in The One that created me. ❤⚓ My first love, my ABBA Father, my Prince of peace and my Creator of everything….

Jesus Christ is my identity ❤

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Galatians 2:20

Knowing your identity in Christ, changes everything. ❤⚓

Grafting

What about the ones that feel like they simply don’t fit? The ones that feel like for whatever reason they just can’t find their people? The loan wolves? What about those people?

I have heard many things when it comes to these feelings. I have heard, “You aren’t meant to fit in here,” or “Why would you want to?” One of my favorites, “It’s their loss.” I honestly have struggled with this feeling since I can remember – the feeling that all of these relationships exist all the time around me, and no matter how hard I try I will never find a place in them.

I had never been that person that just found my people and had them for life. I honestly never had a “group” in school. I just kind of bounced around. I have always felt like maybe it was something to do with me and my personality as a person that really, REALLY likes her alone time.

I had always just been kind of ok with it, but I did always wonder why it was that way. Now as an adult I have made some life long friendships that I cherish so dearly. This may be because I stopped trying to fit where I thought I should, and instead started trusting the doors I saw open for me. I think this all started because I found something so profound in Romans one day that stood out so boldly to me. The bible talks often about olives – olive trees, olive oil, olive branches etc.

Well, in Romans 10 Paul is talking about who will “fit” in God’s kingdom. Fast forward to Romans 11 and Paul paints this picture of one wild olive shoot – that though it didn’t fit with the planted tree – God was still able to graft it in among the planted tree branches and make it bear fruit.

Now I know there is so much more to this chapter about feeling superior to others and all the things, but the picture of being able to be grafted in just spoke so clearly to me because I fall so short ALL THE TIME.

I truly do not feel worthy of lasting love and friendships, but this picture He is painting of grace reminds me that I don’t need to worry about fitting anywhere. Instead, I need to have the FAITH to know that in the right time God will graft me in exactly where He intended for me to fit all along!!

This is for sure exciting news for us that don’t seem to fit where the world makes us feel like we should!!! God has the ability to break us off from our current branch, then graft us right back into the new place that He has in store for us. This is all dependent on how much we trust God with knowing exactly where that is.

I truly believe God intended for us to have relationships in this world. If He hadn’t, I don’t think He would have felt the need to create one for Adam in the beginning. Don’t hear that we were meant to fit in this world because we for sure were not… BUT we absolutely were meant to fit among other believers, and to find joy, fellowship, and love in his people.

So many people try to travel through life alone, and that just wasn’t the picture God had in mind for us. We were meant to find the ones that He had in store for us and be grafted in among them sharing our differences and talents to further the kingdom.

The body of Christ has so many moving parts and so many jobs that so desperately need the gift you have to share. Trust God in his choice to graft you exactly where you are meant to be, and go boldly into this journey with a purpose driven by faith. We are all in this together and IT IS GOING TO BE SO GREAT!!!

If some branches have been broken off, and you, though a wild olive shoot, have been grafted in among the others and now share in the nourishing sap from the olive root.

~Romans 11:17

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

~Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Stages

It’s been neat to watch our kids grow up. We now have an 18 year old – how’d that happen? But for real, this stage is such a good, good stage.

He is graduating. He is starting his first job. He is making plans.

The conversations have changed from Batman and Spider-Man to college and the future – well, most of the time. 😜

And we are just so dadgum proud. Proud of who he is, and proud of who he is becoming.

I have to believe that God feels the same way about us. A proud Papa.

Looking down on us.

Proud of who we are.

Proud of who we are becoming.

Proud of our growth.

Proud of where we are going.

Just proud.

Guys, no matter what stage you are in today just remember that God is with you.

He wants to guide you.

He wants to grow you.

Let Him help you become who you are meant to be in His big ol’ world.

He’s got big plans for you.

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

He will

Be Still and Know

Sometimes I think that I need to work so hard and try to do everything possible to get things done. I think I’m fully in control of the things that happen in my life and do so much to make things work. (Totally wrong perspective.)

As a result, I leave myself feeling so worn out by how much I’m trying to control things and MAKE things happen instead of letting God handle them.

In Exodus 14:14 it says, “The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.”

This verse really helps me see that if I give the things I’m worried about the most to the Lord, He IS going to fight for me and He WILL take care of it.

There’s no need for me to exhaust myself trying to make things happen when the Lord is fighting the battle I’m in.

Psalm 46:10 says this, “Be still and know that I am God…”

Honestly, those few words have given me so much peace during my life. Be still and know. The Lord is saying, “Stop overthinking, stop worrying, and stop overworking yourself. Be still and take a deep breath. I have it handled. I’m in control.”

Whenever you begin to feel like you have to make things work out or take control of a situation that’s happening, I encourage you to stop, take a deep breath and tell yourself, “Be still and know.”

Have the faith in God that he will do what He said He will do. He will fight for you and conquer whatever it is you’re facing. You just need to wait and trust him.

The best place we can put ourselves in this life is under the protection and care of the one who is willing to fight every battle for us. All He’s asking us to do is give Him our problems and fully trust Him to take care of them. ❤️

Worship Him

“I will bless the Lord at all times;

His praise shall continually be in my mouth

My soul makes its boast in the Lord;

let the humble hear and be glad. 

Oh, magnify the Lord with me,

and let us exalt his name together!”

-Psalm 34: 1-3

What is worship? What is the purpose behind it, and why do we do it?

As someone who serves on a worship team, I’ve often been asked these questions. 

What is worship?

Worship is more than the first twenty minutes of the church service and more than the intricate guitar riff and drum solo. Worship is one of the most selfless acts of kindness we can offer God. 

The word worship is defined as the feeling or expression of reverence and adoration towards a deity. In other words, it’s a musical way of thanking and telling God how good He is and how much we love Him. 

To be clear, though, worship is more than just singing songs to Him. It is a way of living. In Romans, Paul writes in chapter 12:1, “I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.” In blatant terms – worship calls for a more profound action than just singing to Him.

Worship involves us presenting ourselves as living sacrifices, but it also involves us presenting ourselves as individual sacrifices. In the proper form of prayer, all the focus is on Christ, which calls for us to remove all of our doubts, worries, fears, business, etc., from the forefront of our minds so that all we think about, see, and feel is Christ. Worship calls for us to humble ourselves before the King so that we can partake in clear communication with Him. 

So- while we know what worship is, why do we do it? What is the purpose of it?

The overall purpose of worship is to praise God because He is worthy of all praise (Psalm 145:1), but inside the general purpose of worship is a mini-reason for why we praise Him. God is good – all the time-so why not tell Him that as much as we can? 

From the first chapter in Genesis to the end of Revelation, it is very transparent that we as humans were simply made to worship. We were made to rejoice in the Lord and the love that we undeservingly receive. In this, we complete what we are made for when we worship. We fulfill our purpose. Through the process of praise, we are also refreshed- returned to God’s radio. True worship allows for the communication line between Christ and us to be cleared up and focused on. 

We worship because it is what we were made for. 

As a worship leader, I have seen many lives change from participating in worship. I’ve seen the Holy Spirit move and work in those who fully surrender to Christ in worship. I love everything true worship is about. So, whether it’s a few songs at a church service or just one in your car on your way to work, worship Him. I promise your day will be better from it!!

Seasons

In this most recent season, I became a mom, our ministry transitioned, & life looks totally different than it did 9, 5, or even 2 months ago. I found myself comparing this season to a previous season in my life when I was doing foreign missions, leading worship in prisons, working full time, teaching classes, etc.

That mindset began leading me down a mental path that wasn’t healthy. Before I knew it, I was down, felt defeated, & quickly not able to see the value & importance of the season I’m in now. The Holy Spirit began gently reminding me how there is a season for everything & one season isn’t more important than the other.

This season of raising a tiny disciple, loving my husband, traveling to evangelize, working part time, etc is of no lesser value or importance than what I was doing before. I’m learning things now I couldn’t learn back then. I’m growing in ways I couldn’t have back then.

This season is beautiful & I’m grateful for it.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 says, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.”

Don’t wish away the season you’re currently in. Be present & be grateful.