Hebrews 12:2 states,

“We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, He endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now He is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne.”

The interesting thing about this verse is that “keeping our eyes” on Jesus in the Greek translates to “only focusing” on Jesus.

Only focusing on Jesus.

Soak that in. Really try and grasp it.

To only focus on Jesus means that we can’t be looking at or to anything else, and as a human – that’s hard.

Temptations

Our own interests

What others are doing

Quick fixes

Human knowledge

To only focus on Jesus means that He is the absolute center of our universe – after all, He did create it.

Everything we do should point towards Him. Everything we say should point towards Him.

It’s time to stop looking to the left.

And it’s time to stop looking to the right.

It’s time to truly hone in on Jesus – the perfecter of our faith. Let Him be your champion.

Empathy – the ability to understand and share the feelings of others

In our day and age of technology and social media, we have lost our sense of empathy. We comment, reply, respond, message, post, tweet, snap things that we would NEVER EVER say to a person’s face.

Most people could (hopefully) read the emotion on someone’s face when they were in person. But behind our screens we lose all decency and empathy.

Some atrocious new story such as a kidnapping or murder occur, and we comment on the FB news station page, “well they shouldn’t have been doing xyz”. Maybe our words of sympathy or a simple scroll on by would be better. The families read those comments as do others who might be in a similar situation.

Our food order is wrong at a restaurant, we run to social media and complain. A tweet costing an employee, that made a simple mistake, demerits at their job. Maybe just let it go, or a call to the restaurant without informing the universe. The entire world is short staffed, we could be a little more gracious.

A decision in government is made that could possibly benefit a neighbor but also weigh another down, we cry foul and complain either way. Most of the time voicing our opinions on social media isn’t going to change things, let’s use our voice at the polls.

We post generalizations that are inherently true, but we have a dear friend suffering and their feelings are completely overlooked because a point must be made on Facebook to our “rightness”. Must it be said, do we consider our friend?

A lack of empathy behind the screen will eventually lead to a crass society. I truly don’t think we are there yet. I think most folks have empathy in real life. But I do think we are on a slippery slope. We cannot win souls with an ugly attitude!

I Peter 3:8-9 (but keep reading – good stuff right there!)

8 Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.

9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing

May is a big month! It is so busy with end of school year activities. May is a time when I can’t help but think about endings and beginnings. With the school year winding down, so many young people are graduating from high school and college and looking forward to new beginnings. All those graduates in their caps and gown make me feel bittersweet. I hate that they are leaving the comfort and safety of their nest, but I am excited for what comes next in their lives. I know that they cannot thrive staying in the same place, standing still. They must move forward to reach their full potential. Isn’t that the way life is though? Almost all new beginnings pair with endings. For all of us change-phobic humans in the world, that reality can be a challenge. Endings often bring change, loss, and a fear of the unknown. If I am honest, I am not a fan. But I do love when I see someone wholeheartedly embracing new beginnings. What I am learning is that when you embrace them, beginnings are filled with vitality and a buzzing, electric hope for the future. A sense of adventure fuels beginnings, and curiosity and determination sustain them.

It is so human of me to cling to the past and dread endings, isn’t it? I really think beginnings are supernatural, and God has a lot to say about beginnings. He created them in the first place, so whether you tend to cling to the old or embrace change headlong, God’s word is a good place to go to look for guidance. When we are saved, Christians become a new creation. In 2 Corinthians 5:17, the Bible says “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here.” When I read that verse and think about the old me, dead in my sin, suddenly change-phobic Heather feels really good about new beginnings. Here is what I am learning to love about beginnings. God is in the beginning business. He gives us the opportunity for new life in Him. That means that if we confess our sins, repent, and ask Jesus to be the Lord of our life, we can have a new life here on Earth and for eternity in Heaven. Earlier I said that beginnings and ending are a matched set, right. So that tells me that becoming a Christian comes with some endings.

Earlier I said endings are hard, and let’s be clear, dying to self and submitting to someone else’s authority rather than my own is hard, and sometimes feels counterintuitive. Sometimes, often, I don’t succeed. I have bad habits that I give into. I like to take control of situations, I focus too much on myself, and I lose my temper. I could go on, but I think you get the idea. The good thing is, God allows us to ask for forgiveness and He forgives us again. We can have new beginnings when we make mistakes. In Mark 2, Jesus tells a parable about wineskins. He says don’t put new wine in old wineskins. The old wineskin would burst open. It would ruin the wineskin and the wine would be ruined as well. He said that new wine should be poured into new wineskins. God doesn’t want us to continue doing life the way we have always done. He challenges us to accept the ending of our old selves, draw closer to Him, and change. But when we mess up, and we all do, he graciously forgives us and provides a new beginning again. When you embrace the new beginning, He will fill you with hope and vitality, and when you seek Him with curiosity and determination, He will make you new, and He will sustain you.

Whichever side you lean toward, the change-phobic, or the eager, embracer of new things, I hope you look to the Lord to sustain you when new opportunities arise and as you walk in the newness of your life in Christ every day. And if you don’t yet know Jesus, there is no time like right now to ask Him for the new beginning he longs to give you.

Thank you, God for giving us a new life in You. When we make mistakes, please help us to confess our sins and renew our relationship with You. Help us to remain new wineskins, filled with new wine. Help us to move forward with curiosity, wonder, and excitement as we navigate life. Help us not to settle for the comfort of the same, but to run after your purpose for our lives. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Change we all hate it. We see it coming and we still dig our heels in. We all have a hard time with change. Whether we are ready or not change happens and is coming. One season of change that is hard to face always happens during the month of May, Graduation season,

Graduation season always moves the time clock up for our children. Promotions to the next grade level, graduating kindergarten, 8th grade, high school and even college and on to empty nesters. All of these changes in our lives as parents really hit hard. Sometimes we are ready and sometimes we are not.

I find myself in the empty nester stage. This season for me watches as one daughter is married, wife, teacher and coach and the other daughter graduated with her masters, living in Arkansas and looking for her God appointed job. People have asked me all through my daughters’ college careers and after “are you sad they are gone”, “sad they are not at home anymore”, My answer is yes and no: Yes because I love having them around and living life with them and No because they are where God wants them to be. They are living out His life plan for them and I love seeing God work in them by opening and closing doors, providing for them and teaching them to rely on Him.

This season of change in our lives as parents is not easy. If we cling too hard to them and interfere every time and try to fix it God can’t teach them what He needs for them to learn. All through my life with my girls I was the fixer. You’re mad so I am too, I need to jump in and take over, you got it. But by doing this my girls have missed out on what God was teaching them. We need to learn to back off. God has this under control and we need to trust Him. Being on the sideline is hard as a parent. God has told me many times “ back off I got this.” This is not easy as a parent I know but we have to learn to let God guide them and us.

God has given me a ministry at the high school where I teach. He has given me more “children” to love and support, encourage, cheer for and guide. These children graduate and move on to their God given plan and it still brings me to tears as it did my own daughters. Even in the empty nest time of your life God gives you a purpose.

So you mommas and daddies who are starting your parenting journey to those graduating your last child at home. You got this. Let God guide and direct you and teach you when to help and when to back off. Don’t interfere. He has got this.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. Pray this verse over your children.

But God proves his own love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8, CSB.

As a younger woman I often took a long time to get ready. I remember as a teenager my brother begging to get into the bathroom we shared as I was fixing my hair and makeup. Now, if my family is going to a special event they are often sitting and waiting for me to finish getting ready. To be fair, as the mother I am often the one doing things like getting the gift together or making sure the dogs are tended to, not to mention helping others pick out event-appropriate clothes. So, to compare my time to get ready to my husband’s, who does not have long hair to fix and makeup to apply, is like comparing the preparation of hamburger helper to that of a gourmet meal. But I digress. The point is, I do feel the need to dress for an occasion. I have learned, however, that the preparation does not need to be extensive for every occasion, and the older I get the more likely I am to show up in a ball cap and t-shirt. I guess over time I have learned to value my time over what someone else might think of me.

You can probably relate to the need to dress for the occasion and may have held a bathroom hostage in your day as well. In this world we often need to prepare ourselves to be accepted. We must be qualified to get a job, meet criteria to obtain approval to buy a home, and have all the appropriate documentation to travel to other countries. We sometimes carry the thought process of needing to be ready into our Christian faith. You may have felt like you are not good enough for God to love you, and that he would not accept you because of what you have done. Perhaps feeling like you are not ready enough has kept you from going to church or making friends with people at church. 

Romans 5:8 says that while we were still sinners Jesus died for us. Nothing is required to receive salvation. No red tape, prerequisites, or qualifications needed. He loves us so much he died for us without taking any deposits or having a single promissory note. In fact, he knew we were a rotten bunch, tainted by sin to the point we persecuted and killed the very man who came to save us. He knew exactly how flawed we are, and he gave his life for us anyway. We do not need to clean up or cover up before we come to him. We are already ready, just as we are.

Sometimes being a servant to someone is a hard avenue to navigate but thankfully, as christians, we have the perfect example of what a servant looks like, Jesus. Even when he knew he would soon endure unmeasurable pain, even when he knew he would be betrayed by his closest friends, he still took the time to teach others, heal others, mourn with others, and wash the feet of his betrayer.

Jesus tells his disciples in John 13:14 that because He washed their feet they should go and wash one another’s feet. He was showing them servanthood and commanding them to be servants like Him!

We are reminded again to be servants in Galatians 5:13. “You my brothers and sisters were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh rather serve one another humbly in love.” We should serve to build others up!

When we’re weary, tired, and having a bad attitude Jesus reins us in saying “Hey, do this to glorify me and my name.” Ephesians 6:7 “Serve wholeheartedly as if you were serving the Lord, not man.” Sometimes it is not easy to serve others. Maybe we don’t feel like they deserve it or maybe they have been rude to you. But it makes it a little easier when we know we’re doing it for our Lord.

So let’s focus on being servants like Jesus and we will have hope that one day we will hear our Heavenly Father say, “Well done good and faithful servant…come and share your masters happiness.” Matthew 25:21