What about the ones that feel like they simply don’t fit? The ones that feel like for whatever reason they just can’t find their people? The loan wolves? What about those people?
I have heard many things when it comes to these feelings. I have heard, “You aren’t meant to fit in here,” or “Why would you want to?” One of my favorites, “It’s their loss.” I honestly have struggled with this feeling since I can remember – the feeling that all of these relationships exist all the time around me, and no matter how hard I try I will never find a place in them.
I had never been that person that just found my people and had them for life. I honestly never had a “group” in school. I just kind of bounced around. I have always felt like maybe it was something to do with me and my personality as a person that really, REALLY likes her alone time.
I had always just been kind of ok with it, but I did always wonder why it was that way. Now as an adult I have made some life long friendships that I cherish so dearly. This may be because I stopped trying to fit where I thought I should, and instead started trusting the doors I saw open for me. I think this all started because I found something so profound in Romans one day that stood out so boldly to me. The bible talks often about olives – olive trees, olive oil, olive branches etc.
Well, in Romans 10 Paul is talking about who will “fit” in God’s kingdom. Fast forward to Romans 11 and Paul paints this picture of one wild olive shoot – that though it didn’t fit with the planted tree – God was still able to graft it in among the planted tree branches and make it bear fruit.
Now I know there is so much more to this chapter about feeling superior to others and all the things, but the picture of being able to be grafted in just spoke so clearly to me because I fall so short ALL THE TIME.
I truly do not feel worthy of lasting love and friendships, but this picture He is painting of grace reminds me that I don’t need to worry about fitting anywhere. Instead, I need to have the FAITH to know that in the right time God will graft me in exactly where He intended for me to fit all along!!
This is for sure exciting news for us that don’t seem to fit where the world makes us feel like we should!!! God has the ability to break us off from our current branch, then graft us right back into the new place that He has in store for us. This is all dependent on how much we trust God with knowing exactly where that is.
I truly believe God intended for us to have relationships in this world. If He hadn’t, I don’t think He would have felt the need to create one for Adam in the beginning. Don’t hear that we were meant to fit in this world because we for sure were not… BUT we absolutely were meant to fit among other believers, and to find joy, fellowship, and love in his people.
So many people try to travel through life alone, and that just wasn’t the picture God had in mind for us. We were meant to find the ones that He had in store for us and be grafted in among them sharing our differences and talents to further the kingdom.
The body of Christ has so many moving parts and so many jobs that so desperately need the gift you have to share. Trust God in his choice to graft you exactly where you are meant to be, and go boldly into this journey with a purpose driven by faith. We are all in this together and IT IS GOING TO BE SO GREAT!!!
If some branches have been broken off, and you, though a wild olive shoot, have been grafted in among the others and now share in the nourishing sap from the olive root.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.